Dr. Julie Hanks discusses assertiveness for women. How moms can impact their daughters with self-awareness

Today’s guest is Julie de Azevedo Hanks, PhD, LCSW is a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist specializing in women’s emotional health and relationships. Dr. Hanks is the founder and director of Wasatch Family Therapy, author of The Burnout Cure and The Assertiveness Guide for Women, a blogger, a local and national media contributor, an online influencer, a consultant, and an award-winning performing songwriter.  A native Californian, Hanks currently lives in Salt Lake City, UT with her husband and their 4 children. She enjoys spending time with family and friends, taking naps, reading, writing, eating a lot of chocolate. We discuss what it means to be an assertive woman and how it positively impacts your daughter.

Why write the book on being assertive?

  • In her clinical practice noticed young women didn’t know what to be assertiveness about, so wrote a five step process to assist women.
  • “We are socialized to care for others.” Dr.Julie Hanks”]
  • Vital for women to know themselves
  • Women can lose themselves when focused on others only
  • Fear of disconnection in relationship
  • When adult women don’t know themselves – can project unresolved issues onto daughters
  • About role modeling and connecting

What is attachment theory and how it impacts assertiveness?

  • Anxious, Avoidant and Secure
  • Develop during childhood
  • Can change through healthy relationships
  • Psychotherapy can assist with developing more secure attachment
  • Differentiation of self and why it is positive step
  • Developmental stage where teen girls can challenge family identity
  • What do I think, feel, want and need-can change daily
  • Being able to label emotions-primary and secondary emotions
    • Julie shares personal story about her and one of her daughters


  • Do your own inner work for both you (parent) and your daughter
  • Self-Care role models to both sons and daughters to take care of themselves and when they are in relationships

Julie’s Information

Download first chapter for FREE www.assertivenessguide.com

Website: www.DrJulieHanks.com

Social Media: @drjuliehanks

To buy book (affiliate link)

For PDF on emotions: http://nicolecburgess.com/emotions/